Visitation was packed. The line to get in barely moved. Tired moms chased screaming kids across the parking lot. Angry girlfriends, denied entry for wearing spandex and sleeveless shirts, stormed off in profanity-laced tirades. A grandfather passed out from heat exhaustion. After a two-hour wait, it was finally my mom’s turn to be frisked, then led through a gauntlet of metal detectors, cell phone detectors, and drug dogs. The guard who escorted her rolled her eyes and smiled, “Come on, video visits!” As if my sweet, 70-year-old mother, who has spent every Saturday for the last 12 years eating microwave food, walking laps, and playing cards with her wayward, knuckle-headed son would share this longing for dystopian efficiency over human contact. She does not. No prisoner or visitor wants this.
It’s coming, though. Not only because these contact visits — which have been standard operating procedure in the Florida Department of Corrections for the last 150 years — are now suddenly deemed a “security threat,” but mainly because there’s a market for it. Companies like Keefe and Access Correctional stand to make millions when video visits become the new normal in Florida prisons.
Most county jails have already made the transition with little or no resistance, but there’s a glaring difference: County inmates are either awaiting trial or serving minuscule sentences. Prisoners in the department of corrections are serving anywhere between a year and natural life. Imagine never being able to hold your daughter again, or give your little boy a piggyback ride, or kiss your wife, or hug your mom. You can argue that the prisoner deserves this. But do his children? His wife? His parents? Families serve sentences together. These types of policies have collateral consequences that extend far beyond the inmate.
John Cacioppo, PhD, a psychologist and social neuroscientist at the University of Chicago studies loneliness and he’s found that feeling socially isolated disrupts not only our brain but also our endocrine and immune systems. Over the long term, lack of human contact can be as damaging to our health and well-being as obesity and smoking (Men’s Health, Jan/Feb 2015).
In this era of Skype and Facetime, my words probably ring trivial. Old fashioned, even. Especially to the millennial who maintains several relationships over a mobile device. That’s not my world. There was no such thing as a smart phone when I was arrested. Many of my fellow prisoners were locked up before the advent of the internet.
Again, who cares? Outside of prisoners and their families, no one. And let’s be honest, the average inmate’s family is not exactly affluent, connected, or politically powerful. The Florida Department of Corrections knows this and passes its draconian rules with little resistance, as I’m sure they’ll do with this one.
To mangle a Leonard Pitts quote: Things like this will continue until the families of prisoners understand themselves as a constituency and organize their voices accordingly.
Please say it ain’t so.Our families need that visit,whenever we can get there.No video will ever replace that hug and that smile .Now our sons ,daughters,wife’s and anyone who visits and wants to take a picture ,can’t even put an arm around the person in the picture.For 10 years that was never a problem .
Yes things change,security has to be strict, but please do not take that personal interaction from us families.I live for that hug and kiss from my son from one visit to the next.
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You’re right, this would be so hard on families. Thanks for your comment.
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Heartless. Another weapon to subjugate those who don’t obey.
Yeah, too many people won’t even hear about this because it doesn’t affect their every day life. That’s what we’ve become – a society of numb, obedient automatons. We’re losing our humanity and most people don’t even know.
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Heartless is a good word for it. Like so many corrections policies all over the country, not just in Florida. Thanks for your comment.
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Most people have no idea the unique hell that families of inmates go through. No one goes to prison in a vacuum. Every inmate is somebody’s loved one. A son or daughter, a mom or dad, a sibling… And given the fact that 2.3 million of our fellow citizens are currently incarcerated (and 97 percent of those have never had a trial), it’s terrifying and heartbreaking to think of so many family members behind bars, many because they simply cannot afford their bail. So there they sit. To further punish families by prohibiting in-person visitation is not only draconian, it’s inhumane. But then, the extent of the cruel and inhumane treatment most inmates endure in prison is shocking. Again, if people only knew… I urge anyone who hasn’t yet seen it, to watch the documentary “13th” on Netflix. It is brilliantly done and quite disturbing. Educate yourself.
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Thanks, Kelly. I’m hoping to put more of a human face on prisoners, so we become harder to discard and dismiss.
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Kelly and I willingly go through the expense of flying down to Pensacola, pay for a place to stay for the few days we are there to SEE YOU across the table from us. To look you in the eye. To receive and give bear hugs (OK, so the best I can muster is a cub hug compared to yours)!
Granted, we are not family, but we’ve come to love you like family, and our lives have been enhanced, enriched by knowing you. This would cheat us too, though nothing compared to a son, a daughter, spouse, and in your case, your Mom. Yes, you’re in prison for doing wrong. But this would hurt your mom, as if punishing her for your crime.
I mean, we love having FaceTime with our grandson Parker (and with Campbell as he, in the next few months, gets to understand more of what he sees and hears), along with my son David, and Stephanie when she’s home. But getting to see him in person, as we did last night in Baltimoreโthey live in Nashville, and are headed to one of Stephanie’s relative’s wedding in Redding, PAโis totally different! Hugging him, tickling his feet, and a myriad of other “physical” activities impossible over a video feed.
Campbell, who is 4.5 months old, got a bit fussy while Stephanie was beginning to eat her meal. My baby handling expertise is 37 years oldโthat’s how rusty I am. So while I wanted to relieve her, I was hesitant. But what’s the worse?!?! Well, turns out I was able to keep him entertained for a good 5-7 minutes!! Sure, it gave Stephanie a break, which I was most happy to oblige. But those 5-7 minutes were the FIRST one-on-one moments I had with him. Something I won’t soon forget! Yet impossible via FaceTime or video feed.
Grrrrrrr!
As usual, my beloved Sir Malcolm, your writing expertly and pointedly shines a beacon on another fallacy within this country of ours! We pride in our venerable documents championing those “unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” And the Bill of Rights attached to our Constitution. How we have lectured countries that trample on such human rights as evidence of our moral superiority!
Yet โฆ
Once again, thank you my friend for your perspective, your clarity, your honesty.
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Thanks, Marcus. Glad you have options other than video with your grandsons. I’m planning on enjoying contact visitation for as long as we have it.
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